Fixing a
broken marriage is a task we ought to learn whether you are praying not to have
one but you can always help those in it when you are equip with the necessary
word and verse of the scripture you can use to heal the victim of broken
marriages. Anger….fear…despair…guilt….shame….when marriage is broken by immorality,
the core struggles of the heart set to place. When one spouse has seriously
hurt the other, is it impossible to fix the marriage? . Like a writer said “My wife has an antique plate that was once broken. I was able to glue it back together and it withstands all but the closest scrutiny." A broken marriage is like that antique, the crack will be there
but once the spirit of God is invited in the matter, it will be so well glued
that it will be unnoticeable. How can this
be done? How can you bear loving an adulterous spouse? Will you ever be able to
cope without being irritated by his/her presence? Will you ever forgive or
forget the immorality and infidelity caused? These are some of the questions
asked by the offended spouse during reconciliation of broken marriage. So what must you do to fix your broken marriage?
FORGIVE
The
first thing the offended spouse must learn to do is forgive, this is the
hardest and the first part to reconciliation, even Jesus stressed to Peter the
importance of forgiveness. Luke 17:3-4 says “Take heed to yourselves: if thy
brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him. And
if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn
again to thee, saying , I repent: thou shall forgive him Wait a minute, you mean if I forgive my spouse for immorality and
she goes back to it again and asked for forgiveness, I should forgive her. No
man/woman in his/her right sense will be forgiven of such enormous crime and go
back, any that do such, needs counseling and prayers. But you will
need God’s strength for you to be able to forgive, immorality act done by your
partner is very difficult to deal with, it gives a scar that is very difficult
to heal away, it brings stigma, the offended avoiding the offender. When you
see your partner, the imaginations of the offence come into your heart. You
start seeing her making it with the person the act was committed with. It is
very difficult with our human strength but I believe with God all things are
possible
LOVE
Ephesians
5:33 “Nevertheless let everyone of you in particular so love his wife even as
himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.” When you've forgiven your spouse for whatsoever doing, the
next giant step is to love him/her as much as you loved when you were new in
your marriage. That is why I said earlier you must allow God to take over. 1
Peter 1:22 “Having purified your soul by your obedience to the truth for a
sincere brotherly love, love one another earnestly from a pure heart",God is not the author of confusion,He knows we will err that is why He had given us a way of escape from sin. Learn to love your spouse because that is when you too needs each other. He/she want assurance from you that you've forgiven him/her and the only way to re-assure is to love her genuinely. Pray for God's grace to do this without allowing the devil to speak to your heart,guide your heart with the word and you will see how you will conquer.
HONESTY
Philippians 4:8-9 “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are
true, whatsoever things (are) honest, whatsoever things (are) just, whatsoever
things (are) pure, whatsoever things (are) lovely, whatsoever things (are) of
good report; if (there be) any virtue, and if (there be) any praise, think of
these things.” This scripture say it all, after all the offences, think good of your spouse,give deaf ear to what people will say,give your partner all the support needed.
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